Cosmopolitans Amy Odells Career Advice - The Muse

Cosmopolitans Amy Odells Career Advice - The MuseCosmopolitans Amy Odells Career AdviceYou may bedrngnis know Amy Odell by name, but chances are, youve read her writing. For years, shes been your internet best friend- she told you what to wear as a founding blogger for New York Magazines The Cut, she made you laugh by penning listicles for BuzzFeed, and now, she oversees all the addictive content on Cosmopolitan.com. As editor of the popular magazines website, she has helmed a total relaunch of the site, more than doubling its visitor besucherzahlen and making it the largest online community of Millennial women.This digital media prowess has earned Odell a spot on Forbes 2015 30 Under 30 in media list and Adweeks list of young innovators changing the magazine business. On Wednesday night, Odell took a break from her internet domination to speak with the New York Women in Communications Young Professionals Committee. Heres some of the best advice she shared about working in digital me dia- as well as that dreaded having it all debate (hint shes not a fan)Take Every Possible RiskThe advice Odell swears by If youre not scared all the time, youre not doing your job.And her career path definitely backs this up From her role at The Cut to launching the BuzzFeed Fashion and BuzzFeed Shift verticals, she is clearly not afraid to try something new. In fact, she is such an advocate for risk-taking that, when asked about a time a risk she took went poorly, she was at a loss for words Of course, it can be tough to face those career fears, but Odells success story is definitely a great motivator to make it happen.Be Nice to Your Co-workers (and Yourself)Despite Cosmopolitan.coms huge profile, Odell swears the sites offices still feel like a startup- and thats the way she likes it. Having dealt with less-than-friendly bosses in the past, Odell says her goal is to create a fun working environment that inspires her employees creativity. Still, even working at Cosmopolitan cant be fun all the time, but Odell says she makes it a priority to handle her stress in a way that will not negatively impact her employees. As you know, there are plenty of healthy ways to manage workplace stress. Odells method of choice? Venting to her husband or friends on GchatDont Have it All- Own Your AllA self-identified feminist, its no surprise Odell is exhausted by the question of having it all, a concept she believes has become outdated and clichd (and shes not the only one). Odell noted that the most common issue young women write to Cosmopolitan.com for advice about is how to ask for what they want, whether it be in their relationships or their careers. So, she urges women to own their all, and focus on taking control of these aspects of their lives. As Odell put it, who really dreams of the vague having it all? Women dream of getting that promotion or that raise, something that is in their power to make happenUse Your Social Self to Your AdvantageWhen it comes to managing your online presence, Odell preaches sticking to your talents. For her, that means tweeting cool content from Cosmopolitan.com and all the funny links she can find, while avoiding other social media platforms. This is definitely a personal preference- if youre as comfortable Instragramming artsy photos as you are live-tweeting the Oscars, you should absolutely do both But Odell doesnt believe its necessary to have a page on every social site as long as the ones you do populate show you in your best light. Odell also admits to using social media profiles during her hiring process- in fact, she says candidates online profiles can be even more important than their resumes So, what catches her attention (in a good way)? Profiles that show what youre passionate about, whether you choose to express it via images on Instagram or relevant links on Twitter.Photo courtesy of Elizabeth Griffin / Cosmopolitan.com.

ASME Foundation Awards 44 Scholarships to ASME Student Members

ASME Foundation Awards 44 Scholarships to ASME Student Members ASME Foundation Awards 44 Scholarships to ASME Student Members ASME Foundation Awards 44 Scholarships to ASME Student MembersAdam Lemoine Each year, the ASME Scholarship Program offers worthy ASME student members the financial assistance they need to keep their academic careers on-track. This year, 44 student members were awarded nearly $170,000 in scholarships through the program, which is funded by the ASME Foundation. The scholarship committee received a record number of scholarship applications - more than 2,000 - for the 2015-2016 school year. The ASME Scholarship Program awards more than 30 different scholarships for undergraduate and graduate students, including the Kenneth Andrew Roe Scholarship, the ASME Foundation Scholar grant, and the ASME/Society of Hispanic Professional Engineers (SHPE) Undergraduate Scholarship for a Hispanic Engineer. Meredith Campbell ASME student member Adam Lemoine, a senior at Worcester Polytechnic Institute, was selected as the winner of the 2015-2016 Kenneth Andrew Roe Scholarship. The $13,000 grant is the largest single-year scholarship offered by ASME. The Roe Scholarship, which is awarded to juniors and seniors studying mechanical engineering, was established in 1991 in memory of the former ASME president and chairman of the ASME Foundation. Lemoine, who served as vice-chair of the WPI ASME student section last year, was named chair of the student section for the current school year. After graduation, he hopes to work in manufacturing engineering, and remain active in Society activities. In his acceptance letter, Lemoine, wrote, I have been a student member of ASME at WPI since my freshman year at WPI, and the opportunities the organization has given me have allowed me to advance my career. Receiving this scholarship is the greatest asset I have received from the organization. I am proud to be a rising professional in the mechanical engineering field, and receiving this scholarship is a huge honor. Alexander Blum Three student members - Meredith Campbell, Alexander Blum and Caleb Amy - were selected as the ASME Foundation Scholars for 2015-2016. This grant, which was introduced in 2013, provides scholarships of $11,000 to undergraduate sophomores, juniors and seniors and up to one year of graduate studies. The scholarships can be renewed up to three years. Meredith Campbell, a first-time recipient of the scholarship, is pursuing a bachelors degree in mechanical engineering at Daniel Webster College in Nashua, N.H. A non-traditional student, Campbell attended college for three years seeking a different degree before switching to mechanical engineering. An ASME student member since 2011 and the former chair of her colleges student section, Campbell received the ASME Charles T. Main Student Section Award Gold Medal for excellence in student leadership in 2014. That same year, she was selected as ASMEs representative in the DiscoverE New Faces of Engineering-College Edition program. A senior at the William States Lee School of Engineering at University of North Carolina-Charlotte, Alexander Blums term as an ASME Foundation Scholar was renewed for a second year. In his acceptance letter, Blum, the current president of his universitys ASME student section, noted that ASMEs financial assistance enabled him to have the flexibility to continue his work both at school and with his student section, and allowed him to perform research for an early-entry masters degree and finish his undergraduate work at the same time. ASME has given me an opportunity to really shine, to go all out, to try my hardest and see how well I can do, he wrote. This is an opportunity not everyone gets in life, and I am so thankful. Caleb Amy Caleb Amy, who is beginning his graduate studies at Georgia Tech this fall, is a third-year ASME Foundation Scholar, having receiv ed the scholarship during his junior and senior years at University of Central Florida. Amy is pursuing a Ph.D. in mechanical engineering at Georgia Tech, and is currently working as a graduate research assistant focusing solar thermal power generation. An active member of the University of Central Florida ASME student section since 2011, he served as treasurer and president of his student section, and as chair of the Student District Operating Board for ASME District F. According to his scholarship renewal acceptance letter, he plans to continue his involvement at the District level by reviewing papers, joining the Atlanta professional leadership, and attending conferences and meetings. Rochelle Piatt, a post-graduate student at the University of Mexico, and Delbert Stewart, an undergraduate at California State University, Northridge, were selected as the first recipients of the ASME/SHPE Undergraduate Scholarship for a Hispanic Engineer this year. The scholarship, which was est ablished in late 2014 and is funded through the ASME Foundation by both ASME and SHPE, provides two $5,000 awards each year to students who are members of both ASME and SHPE and have been actively involved in volunteer work to benefit others through at least one of the societies. To view the entire list of 2015-2016 ASME scholarship winners, visit the Scholarship Winners webpage on ASME.org. For more information on the ASME Scholarship Program, visit www.asme.org/career-education/scholarships-and-grants/scholarship-and-loans. To learn how you can support the scholarship program with a gift to the ASME Foundation, go to www.asme.org/about-asme/get-involved/asme-foundation.

Is there a good way to say no to your boss

Is there a good way to say no to your anfhrerIs there a good way to say no to your bossI struggled with saying no to my boss and coworkers, until I started using these 5 approaches that allowed me to say no without sounding rude or lazy.Its a situation many of us have been in we have a get-it-done, make-it-happen attitude, we work so hard, and we dont say no to any request that is thrown our way. And then what happens? We become overwhelmed with work, our attention pulled in many different directions, and the most important work we need to get done suffers.The bottom line is you need to start saying no to mora things. It can be tough, especially when senior folks in the company are asking you to do things, but focusing your time and setting boundaries is important for any professional. Many of these tips are inspired by Essentialism, its a book that changed my life.Here are 5 ways to say no1. Use the Yes, what should I re-prioritize? methodThis works especially well when receiving re quests from superiors. Let me give you an exampleI once had a boss say to me,Will you make customized agenda and place settings for each person attending the training for tomorrow? That will be such a nice touch.In one sentence she assigned me 3 hours of work. So I saidYes, today I am booked up completing info packets, meeting with each vendor to ensure they have everything, and syncing up with each participant what should I re-prioritize for this?And she immediately responded,Oh yes focus on those things, dont worry about the place settings, its not that important.The lesson here is that when someone asks you to do something they often dont realize how busy you are and how not important their ask is compared to everything else you are doing. When that happens say Yes, what should I reprioritize? And they will generally figure out something else.2. Use a bit of humorThis one is tricky, we dont want to be awkward, but I like to be playful to diffuse a potentially uncomfortable situa tion.I had a coworker, we will call him Frank, walk by my desk say,Madeline, its cold in here, will you change the temperature on the thermostat?And instead of snapping back, No I am not the temperature monitor Or saying, Okay sure, and then resenting him for sidetracking my work, I said with a smile,Frank, youve got that big genius brain. I have full faith that if you put your mind to it, you can figure out how to change the thermostat. You can DO ITHe chuckled, we had some funny banter back and forth, and then he went over and took care of it himself. It was then that I realized using humor to say no is a great way to keep things light at work.3. Make it a teachable momentLets say your boss asks you for something that you know they have the resources to get themselves. Such asHey, could you tell me the dates of the conference?And you know that information is exactly where its supposed to be for them to reference. I recommend to make it a teachable moment. Say,Absolutely youll find the full calendar is here (link) which has the conference dates and all the important milestones leading up to it.Dont get in the habit of simply telling people what information they ask for, show them how to look it up themselves. Ive noticed more often than not that the person Im teaching truly did not know how to help themselves, and they appreciate me showing them.4. Suggest somebody else to do itIts much easier to say I cant do it, but X might be interested than it is to reject a request outright. You are able to come off as being helpful, without having to do the task for yourself.Especially if you are a consultant or work for yourself, have a list of people you can refer others to. Its a ersatzdarsteller win you help the person asking and you refer business to someone else which strengthens your relationship with them.My job can sometimes be a catch-all of little tasks - if you work in HR at a start-up you know what Im talking about - so employees dont always know where my role starts and ends. Employees get in the habit of bringing me many of their requests and if Im not careful, I can end up spreading myself way too thin.Therefore, when they say, Madeline can you post this on social media? I recommend them to reach out to the marketing department. Or, Madeline can I get conference hardware installed in that meeting room? I refer them to IT. Ive realized that when I make exceptions and start helping with every little task, I become completely swamped and not able to do the most important parts of my job. Dont be shy to suggest someone else to do a task.5. Use the If you can X, then I will Y responseSomeone may give you a big ask, and before agreeing to it, think about a compromise.Such as, a boss once said to me,Madeline, youre good at writing, could you write his speech for him?WOW, thats a big ask Instead of taking on such a big task, I modified the askTotally, how about if he writes the initial draft then I will come in and edit it and punch it u p.That was a great compromise, I didnt say no, I modified the ask. So think about how you can divide the work with whoever is involved.The main thing to take away from these are that just because your boss asks you to do something doesnt mean they require it to happen exactly the way they asked. Protect your time, redefine the ask, and empower yourself to say noFor some more of my favorite tips on how to have a great healthy relationship with your boss check them out here.This article first appeared on Quora.

Changing these 4 beliefs will make you surprisingly happy

Changing these 4 beliefs will make you surprisingly happyChanging these 4 beliefs will make you surprisingly happyTraffic upsets you. People upset you. Yur job upsets you Wrong, wrong and wrong. Actually, none of those things upset you. Yurbeliefsabout them do. Thats what the ancient Stoic philosophers believed.FromThe Daily StoicPeople are leid disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them. EpictetusLets say you expect something to cost $90. Turns out it costs $80. Youre thrilled. But if you expect it to cost $30 and it costs $80, you want to murder someone. Price didnt change. Your belief did. And that determined your reaction.Oh, and science agrees with the Stoics here. Big time.Albert Elliswelches a psychologist and he took the ideas of the Stoics and weaponized them into some of the fruchtwein effective therapies that professionals use today.How big a verstndigung im strafverfahren welches Albert?According to asurveyof psychologists he was the 2nd most influential ps ychotherapist ever. Sigmund Freud came inthird.Heres whatWikipediasaysabout his systemIn general REBT is arguably one of the most investigated theories in the field of psychotherapy and a large amount of clinical experience and a substantial body of verrotten psychological research have validated and substantiated many of REBTs theoretical assumptions on rolleality and psychotherapy.And Albert says your beliefs are what cause the majority of unhappiness, anger, and anxiety you experience.Problem is, some of these beliefs aresneaky.You dont even realize theyre there. If I told you that you believed them, youd deny it. But theyre often dictating your reactions - and making you miserable in the process.So what are some of the most common problematic beliefs Albert identified and how do we fix them?Lets get to itNo. 1 This shouldnt be happeningThis is the big one.Hereshow Albert describes the 1 irrational belief we all too often holdPeople and things should always turn out the way I w ant them to and if they dont, its awful, terrible, and horrible, and thats bedrngnis fair.Sounds ridiculous. You would never say that, right? Problem is, you oftenbelieveit without realizing it.Say I tell you this toaster over here almost never works. You try to use the toaster. It doesnt work. Do you get furious and throw the toaster at me? No. Reality met expectations. No surprises. No emotional outburst. Now lets apply that same logic in a different scenario.You know the world is elend always a fair place, right? But then something unfair happens and you go ballistic. Does that make sense? Nope.If youreallybelieved the world wasnt always fair and the world promptly delivered some unfairness, you wouldnt get all bent out of shape. Reality met expectations. But what youreallybelieve is the world shouldnt be unfair toyou. And that, my dear friend, is crazy talk.HeresAlbertWeknowthe world is not fair, yet we still get overly upset when its unfair tous. We start thinking, very early o n, that the world should be fair to usin particular The upsetness doesnt make the problem go away or solve anything (as a matter of fact, you probably make poorer decisions, and deal with others less effectively), but you dont question your reaction because it seems sonatural.So how do you stop getting angry when life (which you acknowledge is unfair) does exactly what you said it would (and abroll-container-transport-system unfairly)? You need to change that underlying belief - the one you didnt know you had.Next time you find yourself getting upset, notice it. Pause. And thenIdentify the underlying beliefUh-oh. Im believing that this unfair lifemusttreat me fairly, arent I?Dispute that belief Is this belief rational? No. Uh-uh. No way, no how.Replace the belief So whats a more reasonable stance? I wouldpreferto be treated fairly, but I know things arent always going to be to my liking. Im not surprised and Im not going to lose my cool.(To learn more about the science of a success ful life, check out my bestselling bookhere.)Okay, so outside events arent always gonna go your way and holding an underlying belief that is aligned with that can make lifes ups and downs much easier to manage.But what beliefs about your own behavior does Ellis say regularly cause you problems?No. 2 I Must Be Perfect.Heres howAlbertdescribes itI must not fail at important tasks and if I do its terrible and I cant stand it.Again, you dont always realize this is your underlying belief. If I asked, Are you human and prone to error? Youd say yeah. But then you make a mistake and totally freak out. Does not compute.If youreallybelieved you were prone to error, you might be a little disappointed. Youdpreferto always get the A+. But you wouldnt be surprised and get overly emotional. Remember, you dont get angry when broken toasters act like broken toasters. You get angry when you expect broken toasters to act like working toasters.And getting rid of your perfectionist beliefs doesnt mean y oure suddenly going to become a slacker who half-asses everything. You can still be persistent. You just dont have to hold silly beliefs that drive you nuts. HeresAlbertSearching for perfect solutions often will lead to stagnation and frustration. Perseverance, tolerance for less than perfection (but striving for it), the pursuit of improvement, and commitment to doing the very best you can, all are healthy, and most likely to yield the best results. Eliminating unreasonable demands for perfect solutions in no way reduces your commitment to doing or being the very best you can do or be.And if thats not enough,researchsays perfectionism can kill youConsistent with our hypotheses, findings demonstrated that risk of death was significantly greater for high scorers in perfectionism and neuroticism, compared to low scorers at the time of base line.So how do you deal with that pesky need to always be the best?Again, you have to dispute the underlying belief. Next time youre aiming for 110 % and getting worked up, take notice.Ask yourself if the belief is rational (nope) and replace it with something more realistic Im going to work on the project for the next three hours and do my best. The amount of effort I expend is under my control but peoples reaction to it isnt.(To learn the seven-step morning zeremonie that will make you happy all day, clickhere.)Okay, youre disputing and replacing irrational beliefs. Maybe youre not doing it perfectly at first - but we dont have to be perfect, now do we?So what about when that irrational belief is like a song stuck in your head? And you just cannot make it stop?No. 3 I Should Worry About This.HeresAlbertIf I worry obsessively about some up-coming event or how someone really feels about me things will actually turn out better.Ridiculous, right? But sometimes thats the belief were really holding.We worry and worry and worry some more. And if we stop worrying, we beat ourselves up for not worrying enough. Its like we think anxie ty is a magic spell that, if chanted constantly, will actually prevent the dreaded thing from happening.For the record, it wont. And you already knew that. But if you believed it deep down, you wouldnt be biting your nails so much. Broken toaster theory all over again.So how do you make the worry song stop playing in your head? You know the answer here dispute and replace the belief. But with anxiety, it can be trickier because worry seems to operate on autopilot in the background. Time to bring out the big gunsWhat is worrying? Its your brains way of reminding you that something is a threat and needs to be dealt with. So what do you do if dispute and replace isnt cutting it in the short term? Let your brain know youre taking its reminders seriously.Schedule your worrying. Seriously. Make a worrying appointment. This worksFor those concerned with shedding some of their anxieties, it seems planning a certain time every day to worry may help stop the stress-out cycle.When people with adjustment disorders, burnout or severe work problems used techniques to confine their worrying to a single, scheduled 30- minute period each day, they were better able to cope with their problems, a new study by researchers in the Netherlands finds.Please make sure to tell co-workers, Id love to go to that meeting but 4PM is when I get all my worrying done for the day.And dont just worry during the appointment - dispute and replace. With practice, the worries will subside. Behavioral therapies like this are the most scientifically proven treatments for anxiety.(To learn 6 rituals from ancient wisdom that will make you happy, clickhere.)So you can finally get that worry song to stop playing in your head. But how do we deal with those beliefs about our past that have shaped us? Thebeliefs that we feel make us who we are?No. 4 Its because of my past.Albertexplains the belief like thisIt was my past and all the awful things that happened to me when I was a child or in my belastung rel ationship or in my last job that causes me to feel and act this way now.We make mistakes - often the same ones over and over - and we say its due to bad parenting. Or because we were teased in high school. Or because we dated the wrong people.Yes, Albert acknowledgedsometraumas do leave lasting issues. But many, many people willingly accept more minor past problems as part of their identity and dont really try to correct them.HeresAlbertThere is no question that our past experiences have thepotentialto influence greatly our present behavior,if we let them Past events wont become any less real or valid we cant change the tapes of those events. We can, however, vigorously change how wethink about them.In most cases its not that the past event caused irrevocable damage its that you arepresentlycarrying an irrational belief about yourself that you took away from the event.I was bullied in school because I was weaker than the other kids. So I am a weak person. And decades later youre s till running that buggy old code like it was the latest software update. Yeah, you may have had moments of weakness in the 4th grade. Does that mean youre a weak person at 32?Even though weve changed and our environment has changed, we cling to that outdated beliefand it affects how we feel. Then confirmation bias kicks in and we stop noticing evidence to the contrary - while maintaining a keen eye for everything that validates that irrational belief.I got nervous during that presentation today. Its because Im a weak person. Yeah, I killed 37 ninjas with my bare hands on the way from the parking lot to the office this morning, but that was just dumb luck. Ive always been weak and Ill always be weak.FromThe CBT Toolbox A Workbook for Clients and CliniciansBecause of how our filters (beliefs) are set up, we often notice instances that support the unhealthy beliefs more than we notice those that may support our opposite, healthy beliefs however, that evidence almost always exists as w ell.So how do we fix this? Of course, dispute and replace. But this one can be tricky because of confirmation bias.Were only noticing and remembering the times when the irrational belief seems to be true (nervous during presentation) and not the times when its proven false (single-handedly defeating hordes of expertly trained martial arts masters.) So youre gonna need some help with this disputing process.Sit down with an old friend and a piece of paper. Make your case. Write down all the events that happened over the years that prove your irrational belief true.I am weak becauseWhen youre done, list all the events that contradict the belief.I am not weak becauseAnd your friend gets to add to this list. You dont get veto power over their contributions. Remember, youre biased.FromThe CBT Toolbox A Workbook for Clients and CliniciansOne valuable tool involves forcing ourselves to look back over those very same periods of life purposefully looking to see the evidence that supports our healthy beliefs. You may want to rely on family members or friends who were around during each period of life to help you notice such evidence. Even if they share things they see as counting that you dont think should count write them down anywayIf there isanythingon the second list, then you are not cursed by your past forever - youre cursed by an outdated belief that you still hold. Dispute and replace.Are you weakat times? Probably. But thats true of everyone. Youre human. Welcome to the party.(To see the schedule that very successful people follow every day, clickhere.)Okay, I now hold the underlying belief weve learned a lot about beliefs. Lets round it all up - and learn the two words that signal you have some more disputin and replacin to doSum upHere are the 4 irrational beliefs that cause you a lot of problemsThis shouldnt be happening Do you really expect to always get what you want? No. But if you really believed that you wouldnt be shouting.I must be perfect. Not possi ble. And itll kill you. You can control effort, not outcome. I willdomy best is rational. I mustbethe best is not.I should worry about this. platzdeckchen a time to worry, to dispute, and to replace. This lets your brain know it doesnt need to be reminding you 24/7.Its because of my past. If thatsreallythe case, then you should be in therapy. But your problems are rarely due to dire past traumas, theyre usually due to some outdated, irrational belief you still hold. Get a friend to help you dispute and replace.You may have noticed two words that came up again and again should and must. Albert Ellis hated those words. He felt they were at the core of so much of our emotional suffering.Both imply that the universe needs to bend to your will. And thats not going to happen. Prefer all you like, but should and must are like shaking your fist at the sky when you dont like the weather. It should be sunny? Well, its not.When you align your expectations with reality, you stay cool like Fonzi e. And then youre able todosomething that might help you get what you prefer.Whenever you hear yourself sayingshould or must, its a sign you might be working off an irrational belief. Time to dispute and replace - unless you like being unnecessarily stressed and angry. I dont.So out of supreme respect for Albert, Im not going to say you should or must obey the above adviceBut doing so will make you much happier. Thats my underlying - and very rational - belief.Join more than 320,000 readers.Get a free weekly update via schmelzglashere.Related postsNew Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You HappyNew Harvard Research Reveals A Fun Way To Be More SuccessfulHow To Get People To Like You 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior ExpertThis article first appeared at Barking Up the Wrong Tree.Changing these 4 beliefs will make you surprisingly happyTraffic upsets you. People upset you. Your job upsets you Wrong, wrong and wrong.Actually, none of those things upset you. Yourbeliefsabout the m do. Thats what the ancient Stoic philosophers believed.FromThe Daily StoicPeople are not disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them. EpictetusLets say you expect something to cost $90. Turns out it costs $80. Youre thrilled. But if you expect it to cost $30 and it costs $80, you want to murder someone. Price didnt change. Your belief did. And that determined your reaction.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreOh, and science agrees with the Stoics here. Big time.Albert Elliswas a psychologist and he took the ideas of the Stoics and weaponized them into some of the most effective therapies that professionals use today.How big a deal was Albert?According to asurveyof psychologists he was the 2nd most influential psychotherapist ever. Sigmund Freud came inthird.Heres whatWikipediasaysabout his systemIn general REBT is arguably one of the most investigated theories in the field of psychotherapy and a large amount of clinical experience and a substantial body of modern psychological research have validated and substantiated many of REBTs theoretical assumptions on personality and psychotherapy.And Albert says your beliefs are what cause the majority of unhappiness, anger, and anxiety you experience.Problem is, some of these beliefs aresneaky.You dont even realize theyre there. If I told you that you believed them, youd deny it. But theyre often dictating your reactions - and making you miserable in the process.So what are some of the most common problematic beliefs Albert identified and how do we fix them?Lets get to itNo. 1 This shouldnt be happeningThis is the big one.Hereshow Albert describes the 1 irrational belief we all too often holdPeople and things should always turn out the way I want them to and if they dont, its awful, terrible, and horrible, and thats not fair.Sounds ridiculous. You would never say that, right? Problem is, you oftenbel ieveit without realizing it.Say I tell you this toaster over here almost never works. You try to use the toaster. It doesnt work. Do you get furious and throw the toaster at me? No. Reality met expectations. No surprises. No emotional outburst. Now lets apply that same logic in a different scenario.You know the world is not always a fair place, right? But then something unfair happens and you go ballistic. Does that make sense? Nope.If youreallybelieved the world wasnt always fair and the world promptly delivered some unfairness, you wouldnt get all bent out of shape. Reality met expectations. But what youreallybelieve is the world shouldnt be unfair toyou. And that, my dear friend, is crazy talk.HeresAlbertWeknowthe world is not fair, yet we still get overly upset when its unfair tous. We start thinking, very early on, that the world should be fair to usin particular The upsetness doesnt make the problem go away or solve anything (as a matter of fact, you probably make poorer decis ions, and deal with others less effectively), but you dont question your reaction because it seems sonatural.So how do you stop getting angry when life (which you acknowledge is unfair) does exactly what you said it would (and acts unfairly)? You need to change that underlying belief - the one you didnt know you had.Next time you find yourself getting upset, notice it. Pause. And thenIdentify the underlying beliefUh-oh. Im believing that this unfair lifemusttreat me fairly, arent I?Dispute that belief Is this belief rational? No. Uh-uh. No way, no how.Replace the belief So whats a more reasonable stance? I wouldpreferto be treated fairly, but I know things arent always going to be to my liking. Im not surprised and Im not going to lose my cool.(To learn more about the science of a successful life, check out my bestselling bookhere.)Okay, so outside events arent always gonna go your way and holding an underlying belief that is aligned with that can make lifes ups and downs much easi er to manage.But what beliefs about your own behavior does Ellis say regularly cause you problems?No. 2 I Must Be Perfect.Heres howAlbertdescribes itI must not fail at important tasks and if I do its terrible and I cant stand it.Again, you dont always realize this is your underlying belief. If I asked, Are you human and prone to error? Youd say yeah. But then you make a mistake and totally freak out. Does not compute.If youreallybelieved you were prone to error, you might be a little disappointed. Youdpreferto always get the A+. But you wouldnt be surprised and get overly emotional. Remember, you dont get angry when broken toasters act like broken toasters. You get angry when you expect broken toasters to act like working toasters.And getting rid of your perfectionist beliefs doesnt mean youre suddenly going to become a slacker who half-asses everything. You can still be persistent. You just dont have to hold silly beliefs that drive you nuts. HeresAlbertSearching for perfect soluti ons often will lead to stagnation and frustration. Perseverance, tolerance for less than perfection (but striving for it), the pursuit of improvement, and commitment to doing the very best you can, all are healthy, and most likely to yield the best results. Eliminating unreasonable demands for perfect solutions in no way reduces your commitment to doing or being the very best you can do or be.And if thats not enough,researchsays perfectionism can kill youConsistent with our hypotheses, findings demonstrated that risk of death was significantly greater for high scorers in perfectionism and neuroticism, compared to low scorers at the time of base line.So how do you deal with that pesky need to always be the best?Again, you have to dispute the underlying belief. Next time youre aiming for 110% and getting worked up, take notice.Ask yourself if the belief is rational (nope) and replace it with something more realistic Im going to work on the project for the next three hours and do my be st. The amount of effort I expend is under my control but peoples reaction to it isnt.(To learn the seven-step morning ritual that will make you happy all day, clickhere.)Okay, youre disputing and replacing irrational beliefs. Maybe youre not doing it perfectly at first - but we dont have to be perfect, now do we?So what about when that irrational belief is like a song stuck in your head? And you just cannot make it stop?No. 3 I Should Worry About This.HeresAlbertIf I worry obsessively about some up-coming event or how someone really feels about me things will actually turn out better.Ridiculous, right? But sometimes thats the belief were really holding.We worry and worry and worry some more. And if we stop worrying, we beat ourselves up for not worrying enough. Its like we think anxiety is a magic spell that, if chanted constantly, will actually prevent the dreaded thing from happening.For the record, it wont. And you already knew that. But if you believed it deep down, you wouldn t be biting your nails so much. Broken toaster theory all over again.So how do you make the worry song stop playing in your head? You know the answer here dispute and replace the belief. But with anxiety, it can be trickier because worry seems to operate on autopilot in the background. Time to bring out the big gunsWhat is worrying? Its your brains way of reminding you that something is a threat and needs to be dealt with. So what do you do if dispute and replace isnt cutting it in the short term? Let your brain know youre taking its reminders seriously.Schedule your worrying. Seriously. Make a worrying appointment. This worksFor those concerned with shedding some of their anxieties, it seems planning a certain time every day to worry may help stop the stress-out cycle.When people with adjustment disorders, burnout or severe work problems used techniques to confine their worrying to a single, scheduled 30- minute period each day, they were better able to cope with their problems, a new study by researchers in the Netherlands finds.Please make sure to tell co-workers, Id love to go to that meeting but 4PM is when I get all my worrying done for the day.And dont just worry during the appointment - dispute and replace. With practice, the worries will subside. Behavioral therapies like this are the most scientifically proven treatments for anxiety.(To learn 6 rituals from ancient wisdom that will make you happy, clickhere.)So you can finally get that worry song to stop playing in your head. But how do we deal with those beliefs about our past that have shaped us? Thebeliefs that we feel make us who we are?No. 4 Its because of my past.Albertexplains the belief like thisIt was my past and all the awful things that happened to me when I was a child or in my last relationship or in my last job that causes me to feel and act this way now.We make mistakes - often the same ones over and over - and we say its due to bad parenting. Or because we were teased in high schoo l. Or because we dated the wrong people.Yes, Albert acknowledgedsometraumas do leave lasting issues. But many, many people willingly accept more minor past problems as part of their identity and dont really try to correct them.HeresAlbertThere is no question that our past experiences have thepotentialto influence greatly our present behavior,if we let them Past events wont become any less real or valid we cant change the tapes of those events. We can, however, vigorously change how wethink about them.In most cases its not that the past event caused irrevocable damage its that you arepresentlycarrying an irrational belief about yourself that you took away from the event.I was bullied in school because I was weaker than the other kids. So I am a weak person. And decades later youre still running that buggy old code like it was the latest software update. Yeah, you may have had moments of weakness in the 4th grade. Does that mean youre a weak person at 32?Even though weve changed and o ur environment has changed, we cling to that outdated beliefand it affects how we feel. Then confirmation bias kicks in and we stop noticing evidence to the contrary - while maintaining a keen eye for everything that validates that irrational belief.I got nervous during that presentation today. Its because Im a weak person. Yeah, I killed 37 ninjas with my bare hands on the way from the parking lot to the office this morning, but that was just dumb luck. Ive always been weak and Ill always be weak.FromThe CBT Toolbox A Workbook for Clients and CliniciansBecause of how our filters (beliefs) are set up, we often notice instances that support the unhealthy beliefs more than we notice those that may support our opposite, healthy beliefs however, that evidence almost always exists as well.So how do we fix this? Of course, dispute and replace. But this one can be tricky because of confirmation bias.Were only noticing and remembering the times when the irrational belief seems to be true ( nervous during presentation) and not the times when its proven false (single-handedly defeating hordes of expertly trained martial arts masters.) So youre gonna need some help with this disputing process.Sit down with an old friend and a piece of paper. Make your case. Write down all the events that happened over the years that prove your irrational belief true.I am weak becauseWhen youre done, list all the events that contradict the belief.I am not weak becauseAnd your friend gets to add to this list. You dont get veto power over their contributions. Remember, youre biased.FromThe CBT Toolbox A Workbook for Clients and CliniciansOne valuable tool involves forcing ourselves to look back over those very same periods of life purposefully looking to see the evidence that supports our healthy beliefs. You may want to rely on family members or friends who were around during each period of life to help you notice such evidence. Even if they share things they see as counting that you dont think should count write them down anywayIf there isanythingon the second list, then you are not cursed by your past forever - youre cursed by an outdated belief that you still hold. Dispute and replace.Are you weakat times? Probably. But thats true of everyone. Youre human. Welcome to the party.(To see the schedule that very successful people follow every day, clickhere.)Okay, I now hold the underlying belief weve learned a lot about beliefs. Lets round it all up - and learn the two words that signal you have some more disputin and replacin to doSum upHere are the 4 irrational beliefs that cause you a lot of problemsThis shouldnt be happening Do you really expect to always get what you want? No. But if you really believed that you wouldnt be shouting.I must be perfect. Not possible. And itll kill you. You can control effort, not outcome. I willdomy best is rational. I mustbethe best is not.I should worry about this. Set a time to worry, to dispute, and to replace. This lets your brain know it doesnt need to be reminding you 24/7.Its because of my past. If thatsreallythe case, then you should be in therapy. But your problems are rarely due to dire past traumas, theyre usually due to some outdated, irrational belief you still hold. Get a friend to help you dispute and replace.You may have noticed two words that came up again and again should and must. Albert Ellis hated those words. He felt they were at the core of so much of our emotional suffering.Both imply that the universe needs to bend to your will. And thats not going to happen. Prefer all you like, but should and must are like shaking your fist at the sky when you dont like the weather. It should be sunny? Well, its not.When you align your expectations with reality, you stay cool like Fonzie. And then youre able todo something that might help you get what you prefer.Whenever you hear yourself sayingshould or must, its a sign you might be working off an irrational belief. Time to dispute and replace - unless you like being unnecessarily stressed and angry. I dont.So out of supreme respect for Albert, Im not going to say you should or must obey the above adviceBut doing so will make you much happier. Thats my underlying - and very rational - belief.Join more than 320,000 readers.Get a free weekly update via emailhere.This article first appeared at Barking Up the Wrong Tree.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

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8 Tips for Dealing With That Extra Annoying Co-worker8 Tips for Dealing With That Extra Annoying Co-workerWhether its the copywriter who incessantly talks to you about her family drama or the account executive who steals food from the company fridge, weve all dealt with annoying co-workers in the bro at some point or another. Of course, colleagues who drive you crazy also pose a aufgabe How do you deal with them without leaving a bad impression?Have no fear, because weve searched the great depths of the web to find the best resources on handling those pesky people in the office. Youll be a work relationships master in no time.Trust me, youre not alone Here are the 15 most annoying co-workers ever (and, shocker Everyone deals with them). (LinkedIn)Building on that, there are definitely ways to handle each individual infuriating co-worker case its not one-size-fits-all. (DailyWorth)If youre worried that youre the only person dealing with a frustrating colleague, dont be research found that one in eight people leave a job due to incivility. (Entrepreneur)Its easy to reach a breaking point with loud, gossipy colleagues, so drown them out with unterstellung five awesome apps. (Fast Company)Sometimes when youre dealing with an obnoxious team member, its best to find a bigger enemy. (Inc.)If youre dealing with a perpetually late co-worker, heres the fix youve always been waiting for the Whisky Rule. (Lifehacker)Obviously, its easy to be annoyed with other people, but its also important to take a step back and think about what irritating office habits you have that drive others crazy. (Forbes)All in all, look on the bright side Your co-worker isnt as awful as David Thorne. (Elite Daily)Need more help dealing with annoyances in the office? Check out some of our suggestionsHow to Deal Handling the Impossible Co-Worker13 Types of Co-workers We Could Seriously Do WithoutHow to Handle the Co-worker Who Just Doesnt Get ItPhoto of upset office workers courtesy of Shutterstock .